What I normally use is db = 20logVout/Vin. Since you are dealing with a capacitor, you might as well use peak to peak voltage. You will notice that you could use the instantaneous voltage, the results are the same, but you should not because there are many instances where the instaneous voltage does not divide.
So, what you are looking for is the frequency at which your output voltage is %70.7 of your input voltage. In this case, you can use peak to peak or instantaneous. Plug in a frequency to your simple RC filter, output referenced to ground, check that your voltage is % 70.7 your input voltage.