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You could use a transformer with a low voltage secondary, e.g. 3VRMS, to monitor the mains presence/absence/voltage/frequency.
Even if you do monitor the mains, is the power company likely to accept your readings?
Looks like severe over-heating caused failure of the bond of the pcb track to the substrate. Not surprising if you're hot-plugging/unplugging the RAM!! What a mess.
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My guess is the night light switch desn't always make a good connection.
Btw, doesn't your keyboard have a "." character? Your post is very difficult to read with no sentence breaks.
Agreed, but during that brief period (~1uS in simulation) the supply is effectively shorted. While that may not harm the FETs it may upset some other part of the circuit.
Consider T3, T5. With a 5V supply, both will need to have a Vgs(th) of magnitude a good bit less than 5V to ensure full turn-on. There will therefore be a common gate voltage at which both FETs will conduct at the same time.