Is something like this good? http://www.mgchemicals.com/products/835.html You say you sparingly and that's fine and dandy but I think you have to use as much as it takes to make the wire strands wick the solder. With no flux or too little it just balls up around the wire and you can just flick it off. So I think you're at the mercy of using as much as you need to get the job done. Not to be nit picky, but I think you're just saying use as much as you need and no more.