I don`t think that this is the case. We cannot "forget about Vbe" . For calculation of the resistor necessary to allow a certain current Ib you need the voltage difference V(source)-V(base). And V(base) dpends on the desired Vbe.Yes right Vbe will take care of itself. This is why I think people forget about Vbe and say let the base current do the work. So for them they are controlling the collector current using the base current. The fact that Vbe will change a small amount is irrelevant to them but a necessity for the operation of the circuit.
Adam